A new year is about to unfold. Are you going to be in the driver’s seat as to how it unfolds? Or are you going to be a passenger in the backseat, just going along for the ride? We’ve all felt the way the latter feels. I remember when I would feel like I was a hamster running on a hamster wheel, just trying to keep one foot in front of the other. I’m not sure why I always use animals to describe how I feel, but I also remember describing myself as running around like a “chicken with it’s head cut off.” Basically, the essence of what I was feeling ins ide when I used to describe myself was a feeling of being out of control and just surviving. Is this TRULY the way to live life? Especially with children?
You see, when we live life like this everything seems complicated and becomes difficult. When we’re frazzled, our children seem to act up. Coincidence? Not really. When our house is cluttered and untidy, do our kids whine that they’re bored or are they hyperactive? Most often, yes. If we are always rushing from one lesson to the next, do we have a lot of extra patience for our kids? Nope. In the modern world we live in, it is very easy to let life lead us leading IT. However, imagine if you were able to actually CHOOSE how your daily life played out?
Imagine waking up before the kids and drinking a cup of warm water with lemon while you set an intention for your day.
Imagine having your kids wake up happy and get dressed quickly and easily.
Imagine having a place to put your things and your kid’s things so that you never had to be stressed and wonder where something is.
Imagine having regular routines or rituals that your family participates in each and every day or week that make you bond closely?
Life can be designed, but it takes spending some time and thought, and sometimes getting support, to make it how you would like. I encourage you to spend some time on New Year’s Day or the days after and write down three things you would like to have more of in your life this year. I’d also suggest you come up with two or three things that are not serving you and let them go – whether they be something in your schedule, your home, or your personal life such as a “friend” or an emotion.
The last part of this exercise would be to write out how you can acquire the things you want in your life. Do you need support, to hire someone, to schedule in something, to ask for help, or create a routine?
If you need a place to start with this whole exercise, here is a quick and easy activity for you. Doing this will help you see where you need to focus and then you can narrow it down even further if need be.
Read these statements and answer “yes,” “no” or “sometimes.”
- My home feels like a cozy, calm space for me and my family, free of excess.
- My schedule allows me to accomplish what I want.
- I have all the time I need to replenish my energy.
- My kids have routines that allow them to accomplish what they need to everyday.
- I feel balanced and fulfilled, most of the time.
- I feel like I easily provide nutritious meals for my family on a regular basis.
- I have organizing systems in place that fully support my day-to-day life.
- I set a good example for my children when it comes to how to live a balanced and healthy life.
- My kids listen to me when I ask them to do something or stop doing something.
If you have much bigger dreams for your home, family, schedule, and life than where you are today and you finally want to be able to describe yourself as a stress-free parent, then do the exercise described above, and if need be, seek out the support you need to make your dreams a reality! Here’s to a fulfilling, meaningful and “in the driver’s seat” kind of year!
Erin Kurt, B.Ed, spent 16 years as a teacher and nanny around the world. Now, she applies her expertise as a parenting expert and author of Juggling Family Life and The Life Balance Formula. You can learn more about Erin and her simple, loving parenting method, and subscribe to her weekly parenting tips e-zine aterinparenting.com. You’ll also receive Erin’s free video series “8 Secrets to Stress-Free Parenting“, packed with parentings tips!